Are you in America’s sexiest state?
US Sex Map 2025
With millions of people of all shapes, sizes and sexualities across all 50 states, it makes sense that Americans are into all sorts of different things in the bedroom. But could where you live be an indicator of what’s next on your ‘to try’ list? From the city that’s keeping things fresh with roleplay, to the spot that’s got the most potential for fun, take a peek into the sex lives of the nation with our map of the sexiest places in America.
US Sex Map 2025
The sexiest states
Curious about which areas buy the most? Select the category icons below the map to check the temperature across the nation and prepare for your own heart rate to rise.
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Top ranked cities across the US
Which city buys the most sex toys?
🥇 Somerville, Massachusetts
🥈 Cambridge, Massachusetts
🥉 Reston, Virginia
4. Boston, Massachusetts
5. Arlington, Virginia
6. Annapolis, Maryland
7. Vienna, Virginia
8. Ithaca, New York
9. Washington D.C, District of Columbia
10. Hoboken, New Jersey
11. Seattle, Washington
12. Boulder, Colorado
13. Blacksburg, Virginia
14. Frederick, Maryland
15. Chapel Hill, North Carolina
16. Charlottesville, Virginia
17. Ann Arbor, Michigan
18. Leander, Texas
19. Broomfield, Colorado
20. Bozeman, Montana
Drumroll please...
The sexiest city in the US is:
Buys the fewest products
Most Potential Award: Victorville, California
Victorville might buy the fewest number of products, but that’s no bad thing – just think of all the fun they have ahead of them. If you know someone in this city, you know what they need for their birthday next year.
Buys the most costumes
Best Dressed Award: Spring, Texas
Their persona of choice is a French Maid, with fishnet stockings and white knee-high socks completing their ensemble.
Buys the most handcuffs
Outstanding Officer Award: San Diego, California
Feeling frisky? No one is above the law according to San Diegans – everyone is able to put a pair of handcuffs to good use here, as they’re the top purchasers of cop costumes. Whether you’ve been naughty or nice, you’re more likely to find yourself facing jail time than any other city.
Buys the most condoms
Safe Sex Award: Seattle, Washington
Ribbed, flavored, textured – people in Seattle know that condoms aren’t just great for practicing safe sex. They’re the biggest buyer in this category this year, stocking up on extended pleasure, thin feel, or mixing it up with a surprise pack.
Buys the biggest condoms
Biggest Protector Award: Brooklyn, New York
Size matters in Brooklyn – and we’re not talking about real estate. They’re the most likely to buy XL condoms, keeping things safe but without any of the discomfort that comes from wearing the wrong size.
Buys the most books
Most Studious Award: Colorado Springs, Colorado
The residents of Colorado Springs are brushing up on their seduction skills, buying more of our books than any other state. From our guide to talking dirty to sexy date-night inspiration, their bookshelves are far from being dry and dusty.
Smallest Towns, Biggest Buyers
Among the nation's smallest towns (with populations under 50,000), these cities had the highest per capita purchasing.
Farnham, Virginia
Pop. 2,029
Jayton, TX
Pop. 494
Hope, ID
Pop. 104
Willow Hill, IL
Pop. 168
Dennysville, ME
Pop. 315
Penetrative pleasure
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Buys the biggest dildos on average
Vermont takes the crown for size royalty, buying the biggest dildos on average. But it’s not the only state turning things up a notch.
Vermont: 7.03 inches
New Mexico: 7.02 inches
Alabama: 6.99 inches
Maine: 6.98 inches
Wyoming: 6.90 inches
Brave! Just remember, if you're taking on a larger toy, it's best to use lube and work your way up, rather than going straight in with the biggest one you can find.
Buys the smallest dildos on average
South Dakota knows full well that bigger isn't always better, buying the smallest dildos on average. Famously, good things come in small packages! Regardless of size, we bet these states have a great time playing with their favorite dildos:
South Dakota: 6.42 inches
Puerto Rico: 6.43 inches
Connecticut: 6.50 inches
New Jersey: 6.54 inches
Virginia: 6.54 inches
The kinkiest places in the US revealed
Ever wondered what kinky things your fellow Americans are interested in? Does where you live indicate what might be going on in the bedroom?
There’s no right or wrong way to play (if it’s safe and consensual), but it’s natural to be curious… you might even get some inspiration! So, if you want to know what makes a certain city special, we’ve got the answers.
Buys the most anal toys
Peachiest Place: Washington D.C.
Your butt is full of nerve endings, making it an underrated pleasure point. But Washington D.C. isn’t afraid to explore! Topping the charts for anal toys and anal lube, the people of D.C. know how to get satisfaction from all angles.
Ranked #2 for anal lube
Buys the most gags
Most Silent City: Denver, Colorado
The most populous city in Colorado might be bustling, but the locals are keeping things quiet. Purchasing the highest number of gags per capita, they’re turning the heat up but the volume down.
Buys the most chastity devices
Most Pious City: New York, New York
New York is the city that never sleeps, and it shows. They’re taking control and making things last all night with a range of chastity devices, designed to let the high achievers of the city streets take power play into the bedroom.
Buys the most monster dildos
Most Otherworldly City: Miami, Florida
Known as the Magic City, Miami is leaning into the theme and going fantastical with a range of otherworldly dildos. Whether it’s a dragon, tentacle, unicorn or simply a sparkly toy that hits the spot, they’re embracing their fantasies with sensations that are out of this world.
Buys the most sex dolls
Most Out-Of-The-Box City: Ypsilanti, Michigan
People in Ypsilanti are letting their imaginations run wild as they are the top purchasers of sex dolls in the US.
Buys the most realistic vaginas
Most Realistic City: Irvine, California
With a high concentration of students, residents of Irvine should know all about attention to detail – and it shows. Realistic vaginas are a favorite here, letting lovers lean into lifelike sensations.
Buys the most penis molding kits
Most DIY City: Chicago, Illinois
Chicagoans are staying loyal to their lovers regardless of if they’re in the bedroom or not. Their partners are always in their thoughts thanks to the Clone-A-Willy kit. However, they’re not completely restrained by realism, opting for blue and pink toys as well as skin-colored.
Buys the most strap-ons
Most Versatile City: Portland, Oregon
Inhabitants of Portland are ready to get geared up, purchasing the highest number of strap-ons per capita. No matter if they have a penis or not, they’re taking control in the bedroom and engaging in this exciting way to play.
That’s right, even penis-owners can wear a strap-on (for this kind of play, they’re usually hollow), to enhance their natural gifts or live out a certain fantasy.
How does the US measure up?
If you stacked up all the dildos we sold in the US, the total insertable length would be 15,926 feet. But what does that look like? It’s equivalent to:
12.7 Empire State Buildings
51.3 Statue of Liberties
15.6 Chrysler Buildings
In total, the US bought over 371,200 ounces of lube.
That could fill over seven four-person hot tubs.
Hidden pleasures:
Getting wild in Washington D.C.
There’s a lot going on in the US capital, and it’s not just all about getting elected. So what are our lawmakers getting up to in their free time? Let’s dive further into the power plays that are going on behind the scenes.