Strap On Kits

Strap on kits cater to a range of needs and desires, whether lesbian, female to male, or an aid for erectile dysfunction. Take control with an exciting addition to your bedroom play. If you’re not sure what to choose, check out our Strap-On Guides to help you with your shared pleasure quest.

What Is a Strap-On Set?

A strap-on set (also known as a strap-on dildo set) is a dildo that is usually designed to be worn with a harness which secures the dildo to the pelvis. Strap-ons are used for various sexual activities, including lesbian sex, pegging, vaginal and anal sex, and oral sex. They are ideal for hands-free penetration for both same-sex and heterosexual couples.

Strap-on sets come in a diverse range of designs, based on how the dildo attaches to the body, the style of the harness, and the type of stimulation it provides. While the strap-on set was originally designed for lesbian sex and was first popularized by adult films featuring lesbian strap-on toys, they can be worn by any gender or sexual preference and are considered the ultimate couple’s toy.

Pegging sets are often used by a strap-on couple so people without penises can penetrate their male partner for anal play and prostate stimulation. The male prostate is highly sensitive to pleasurable touch, so stimulating it can produce explosive orgasms. For penis owners, a hollow strap-on can be used to enhance or replace a real erection so they can enjoy pleasuring their lover via sexual intercourse. Double dildo strap-ons are used for double penetration to fulfill your wildest fantasies.

Most strap-ons include a harness and dildo which can be purchased together, although many can be purchased separately as well. There are also strapless strap-ons for vulva owners which feature an innovative design that allows the penetrating partner to hold the dildo using their vaginal muscles.

Types of Couples Strap-Ons

There are three main types of sets used by strap-on couples. Whether you are a beginner just exploring pegging for strap-on sex or an experienced user looking to upgrade, we’ll help you find the best strap-on dildo set for you.

From hollow strap-ons and pegging kits, to strapless versions and double-penetration strap-ons, Lovehoney carries a wide variety of couples strap-ons to explore any fantasy.

Harness & Dildo Strap-On Set

The most common strap-on kit is the harness and dildo combo. Due to the diverse nature of each separate toy, dildo harness sets have many different styles and ways of securing the dildo to the harness. Here’s the breakdown.

O-Ring Style Harness & Dildo Set

The most popular design in this category is a harness that features an O-ring that allows a wide-based dildo to be inserted. This is the most versatile type of strap-on design as virtually any dildo with a flared base can be used with an O-Ring harness because the O-rings can be changed out to facilitate different-sized dildos. Harnesses are made from various materials including leather harnesses and ones made of fabric. These strap-ons can be used by any gender for a variety of play.

Harness Briefs

Strap-on harness briefs are more fashion orientated and are basically a pair of boxer shorts or briefs that feature an O-ring. Like O-ring harnesses, they can be used with a variety of flared base dildos and are also unisex. Some come in a sexy lace fabric, like these Lovehoney Unisex Crotchless Open-Back Lace Harness Briefs. Others look more like a jockstrap, like these Spareparts Hardwear Unisex Joque Strap-On Harness. Again, these are suitable for any gender.

Corset Style

The corset-style harness is similar to the O-ring style above, but they lace up like a corset in the back like a corset and are more feminine in design.

Vac-U-Lock

Vac-U-Lock strap-on dildo sets are designed by Doc Johnson. They have a hole at the base of the dildo which fits into a matching peg or plug in the harness. These are usually sold in strap-on sets like this Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Realistic Feel Advanced Strap-On Dildo Set. The advantage of these toys is they have a firm attachment. The disadvantage is you cannot mix and match them with other types of harnesses or dildos. These strap-on sets can be used by both penis and vagina owners.

Strapless Strap-On

A strapless strap-on is designed to be worn by a vulva owner to penetrate their partner. It is held in the vagina using the sphincter muscles by an egg-shaped bulb called a pony. This design is perfect for people who have strong vagina muscles to hold the toys inside. They are also more intuitive and feel like a part of the body, plus they don’t require a harness to strap them on. They also give both the penetrating partner and the partner internal stimulation.

The downside of this design is that they take practice to learn how to use them, and you need to have strong muscles to hold them inside. However, they can be used with a regular harness, which is helpful if you are new to strapless strap-ons. The Tracey Cox Supersex Rechargeable Remote Control Strapless Strap-On Vibrator is one of our bestsellers in the strapless strap-on category, which also features vibration for added thrills.

Double-Penetration Strap-on

A double-penetration strap-on is in a category all its own and is worn by penis owners. It is secured via two rings: one that fits over the base of the penis and one that fits over the scrotum. This allows the wearer to simultaneously provide double penetrative sex to their partner in both the vagina and anus. The Lovehoney Double Fun Vibrating Beaded Double Penetration Strap-On is the perfect example of this type of strap-on toy. Some double penetrator strap-ons feature two dildos as well.

Hollow Dildo Strap-on or Penis Extension

Hollow dildos or hollow strap-ons are also called penis extensions. These phallic sheaths fit over an erect or semi-erect penis to provide extra girth or length to the wearer. They also help people with erectile dysfunction to maintain an erection longer and provide desensitization to the penis to prolong play. The Lovehoney Mega Mighty 3 Extra Inches Penis Extender with Ball Loop slides over the penis and also features a ball loop to hold it firmly in place.

Thigh Harness

The thigh harness is the type of harness that fits around the thigh so the partner being penetrated can sit on their lover’s lap. This type of strap-on can be used by anyone but is also useful for people who may have mobility issues. The Sportsheets Ultra Plus Size Thigh Strap-On features a Velcro design and can be used with any flared base dildo. Thigh harness strap-ons can be used by any gender.

How to Choose a Strap-On Dildo Set

Choosing the best strap-on for you will depend on its intended use and whether you are a penis haver or vulva owner. Here are some things to keep in mind.

How is the strap-on dildo attached to the body? If you feel you require more support or are new to strap-ons, a harness and dildo strap-on set is the best option. Advanced users may like the challenge of a strapless strap-on, but keep in mind you need strong pelvic floor strength (Kegel muscles) to hold them in place.

If you are a penis owner, a double-penetration strap-on, or a hollow strap-on, is perfect for exploring DP sex or to help get and maintain an erection.

For pegging or anal play, a smaller strap-on dildo is recommended. These are also great for beginners.

Finally, if you want even more stimulation, vibrating strap-ons provide extra pleasure during penetrative play.

How to Use a Strap-On Set/Pegging Kit

There are numerous ways to enjoy a couples strap-on. Here are some tips on how to use a strap-on set safely and comfortably for mutual pleasure.

Lube: Lube is your best friend when it comes to any type of penetrative play, especially anal penetration. Because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, it is important to always use an anal lube, and lots of it, during penetration.

Take It Slow: Make sure to take your time with strap-on play. When wearing a strap-on, you can’t feel the angle or depth of penetration like you can with a real penis. Getting the right angle is very important with anal play as the anus has a curve in it. You may want to try fingering first to warm them up so you can feel the curve of the rectum.

Communicate: Communication is especially important during strap-on play. Again, this is because the penetrating partner can feel their lover’s butt hole or vagina. Therefore, the partner who is being penetrated should set the speed and depth of penetration and communicate this to their partner.

Try Different Positions: There are many exciting positions you can get into with strap-on sex. Just about any sex position you can get into with a penis you can also do with a strap-on set. Try doggy style, missionary, or bend-over-boyfriend.

Practice Makes Perfect: As with any new toy, it takes a bit of practice to get the hang of it. Wear a strap-on toy before you play to get the feel of how to wear it, how to adjust it for the perfect fit, and how to wield it. With more use you will become a strap-on expert in no time!

Watch our YouTube video below for more tips on “How to Use a Strap-on”, where you will learn about the various types of strap-on sets and their differences, as well as demonstrations on how to use them.

Pegging & Strap-On Sex | How to Strap-On a Dildo

Navigating strap-ons can feel like a bit of a minefield, especially if it's your first time. Let Jess and Sammi talk you through the core differences between the main types of strap-on and what sort of sex they're best for.

Strap-On FAQs

Got more questions? We’ve got the answers below!

1. Will the strap-on harness fit me?

Most strap-on sets and harnesses are adjustable to fit up to a 42-inch waist. Make sure to read the description on our product pages for fitting guidelines.

2. Can men wear strap-ons?

Yes. Both the double-penetration strap-on and the hollow strap-on are made specifically for penis owners. Any gender can wear harness-style strap-ons as well.

3. How do you use a strap-on for pegging?

For pegging, choosing a smaller dildo is recommended, especially if you and your honey are new to this type of erotic play. In addition, the prostate is not that deep inside the anus, so a smaller dido will target that area much better.

Again, use lots of lubricant and make sure to take it slow. Check-in with your partner and find a rhythm that works for both of you.

For more info, look at this “Beginner’s Guide to Pegging” article.

4. Can you use a strap-on for oral penetration?

Absolutely! Many people enjoy simulating oral sex with a strap-on dildo. It is also great practice if you want to learn deep-throating, and visually appealing as well.

5. How do you clean a strap-on dildo set?

Cleaning a strap-on is fairly straightforward.

Rinse dildo with warm water, then spray with Lovehoney Fresh Sex Toy Cleaner.
Leave on for 30 seconds, then wipe away any residue before rinsing with warm water.
Pat dry with a lint-free towel or allow to air dry completely before storage.

Proper cleaning will ensure your toy stays like new for a long time.

Learn more in this “How to Clean Sex Toys” guide.

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