Position of the Week:
Lazy Sixty-Nine

Lazy Sixty-Nine; the name says it all. This relaxed take on the classic 69 is easy to slip into and lets both lovers give and receive pleasure at the same time – without breaking a sweat.

Why?

The Lazy Sixty-Nine brings you up close and personal, with loads of intimate, skin-to-skin contact. Plus, this snug setup lets you give and receive pleasure in complete comfort – you don’t have to leave the bed if you don’t want to!

It’s a more relaxed alternative to the traditional Sixty-Nine, which requires a bit of upper body strength for at least one of you. Choose Lazy Sixty-Nine if you fancy a slower, more sensual pace to your play session.

You might not climax while you’re busy performing oral, so let this be a fun appetizer rather than the main course. Enjoy it during foreplay, at your own pace, and enjoy the view while you’re at it. No pressure, just pleasure.

Make it even easier

Grab a pillow to support your head and neck and hold each other close to stay in position. If either of you find balance is stopping you from enjoying the position, some more pillows behind the hips and back could help.

Some people find it difficult to concentrate on both giving and receiving at the same time, especially with oral sex positions. If that’s you, no problem. You’ll find some tips on how to ramp up the pleasure below.

For now, give yourself permission to be in the moment, focusing on your lover’s body language and moans, without worrying about who’s going to climax and when.

Make it even better

If your lover had a vulva, treat them to the combined sensation of penetration and oral. Grab their favorite G-spot vibrator and slather it with plenty of water-based lube before sliding it inside.

If your partner has a penis, stroke the shaft with your hands or use an open ended masturbator toy. One partner holds the toy while the other focuses on delivering oral, which allows you to mix up the sensations and build up anticipation. It can also be used for edging and can be repeated as many times as you like.

A slick of something sweet like flavored lube can make the experience more delicious for both of you – especially if oral is the main event.

And when you’ve both had your fill, let one of you roll onto your back while the other climbs on top. From here, it's easy to transition into a penetrative position like Reverse Cowgirl.

Make it even kinkier

Just because it has lazy in the name, it doesn’t mean it has to be tame!

While pleasuring your lover with your mouth, try gently scraping your nails up and down the skin of their back, butt, and legs. Grab a handful of their hair near the scalp and gently squeeze to create a tugging sensation. These are both low-effort ways to increase passion and heighten arousal by stimulating the nerve endings in your lover’s skin.

For a kinky twist, try using an adjustable spreader bar between your partner’s thighs. It keeps their legs comfortably open and gives you easier access to their vulva, clitoris, or anus while you’re delivering oral stimulation.

If you’re both on board, grab the anal lube and try slipping a finger or anal beads slowly into your lover’s butt. Start with gentle circular motions around their anus help them relax and be ready for anal penetration. Then, slide the beads inside while your mouth focuses on oral pleasure.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.