How to Build a Kinky Sex Room
(That Fits Your Space & Needs)

Set the Mood

Want to make the bedroom a spot where the phrase “sleeping together” rarely brings about thoughts of catching zzz’s? Then you’ve got to set the scene sensually, dahh-ling! Throughout her dirty design series, Melanie talks a lot about ~texture~, and while her fabric advice does truly get repititive, it’s certainly not without merit. Filling your space with fabrics that beg to be laid upon will likely get you laid more often. Choose your sheets wisely, accounting for both the feel and aesthetics that arouse you in your selections. Plush blankets kept at the end of your bed are an easy way to bring more sultry textures into the mix. If you’re a fan of velvety finishes, we recommend the moisture-resistant Liberator Fascinator Throw sex blanket that feels deliciously soft against skin while also protecting your sheets from lube and body fluids no matter how wet your play gets.

Small sensual items, too, can make a significant impact on your space. If you’re looking for a quick and inexpensive mood enhancer, placing a selection of deliciously scented massage candles like the Lovehoney Oh! Strawberry Lickable Massage Candle throughout your room can make a world of a difference. Yummy massage candles have a triple-whammy effect by providing romantic lighting, dreamy scents, and an avenue for sensation play in one fell swoop. You can learn more about how massage candles are a fab BDSM tool in our guide, How to Use Bondage Candles for Hot Wax Play!

Getting in Position

A once-niche pleasure product category that’s now finally on the general public’s radar (thanks, Melanie!) are positioning aids, and they’re a must for any sex room (and a grand bedroom addition even for those who don’t plan on creating a dedicated sex room, tbh). Whether you’re looking to add a slew of easily achievable Kama Sutra-style positions to your arsenal or want to make your fave classic positions feel even more amazing, sex furniture and its close relatives, positioning aids, are the best way to do so.

If you can go all out, you absolutely should – the erotic visual of a luxe, artfully curved sex couch like the Liberator Cello can make just as big of an impact on your libido as its ergonomic design and body support do on the quality and creativity of your sex position game. No need to fret if your lifestyle doesn’t lend well to having an obvious piece of sex furniture around, though. You can achieve the same physical effect with a modular sex positioner duo like the Lovehoney Ultimate Sex Position Enhancer Set which offers ample support and positioning possibilities during use

For those seeking to enact adventurous sex positions oft-unexplored, bondage-inspired sex swings will undoubtedly quench your thirst, providing an almost weightless effect for the partner strapped inside of it. Sex swing designs come in two variations – classic and over-the-door - each with its own pros and cons.

Classic sex swings like the DOMINIX Deluxe Fantasy Bondage Swing hang from a hook securely embedded in your ceiling. Users generally place them somewhere clear of walls and other furniture items, making this sex swing style better for freedom of movement and exceptionally rowdy romps. While you can hide the swing and connector once the fun is done, you cannot hide the hook, which may be a concern for those requiring a high level of discretion.

Over-the-door sex swings like the Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit use any closed door in your home as a secure hanging spot rather than the ceiling. Since they slip on and off doors in a jiffy, hiding them is no problemo, but they do offer a more limited range of motion due to the door being behind them. Another plus beyond their discreet nature that leads many to over-the-door sex swing purchases is their lower price point compared to most classic sex swing styles.

If you prefer to keep things simple in your first foray into positioning aids, smaller-scale items like wedges, ramps, and sex pillows are intuitive and unintimidating – and you can find many versions with included restraint attachment points, like the DOMINIX Deluxe Sex Position Wedge, for convenient bondage thrills. Though they may not appear as majestic as the lavish sex furniture items listed above, their support and stimulating angles will make far more than a dent in sexcapade satisfaction levels.

Bondage is the Tie That Binds

Put the “B” in BDSM by equipping your space with plenty of restraint options to suit any situation or position craving. Though handcuffs and bondage tape are staple restraint tools that fit conveniently in even the tiniest of bedside tables, we’re looking to go beyond just the basics here, aren’t we? For a truly bodacious bondage setup, consider transforming your bed into a stage for BDSM action by installing easy-reach restraints you can indulge in at a moment’s notice.

For dungeon masters who DGAF about visitors knowing what goes down in their absence and appreciate a bold statement, we suggest equipping each post of the bed with a metal handcuff. Metal cuffs are a BDSM classic, their simplicity and shining aesthetic never going out of style, and their constantly visible presence will loom almost menacingly, eliciting the promise of debauchery at the sight of them. You could alternatively opt for furry handcuffs if that suits your interior design style and submissive’s comfort preferences better. The visual threat of restraint will still be present, just with an added touch of seductive softness.

Need a more incognito way to make your bed a restraint palace? Under-mattress restraint systems like the Bondage Boutique Bound to Please Black Under Mattress Restraint are perfect for sneaky kinksters who adore bondage and discretion equally. The secure restraint connector system remains hidden beneath your mattress at all times (helloooo, one-time installation!), and the attached wrist and ankle cuffs and tethers easily stuff under mattresses, too, for a covert yet incredibly accessible full-body bondage tool.

And don’t forget that there are plenty of ways to take bondage beyond the bed. After all, you are crafting an entire sex room, so make the most of it with restraints that lend themselves to various positions and situations. For standing sex and punishments, you can’t go wrong with an expandable spreader bar like the Bondage Boutique Extreme Expandable Spreader Bar with Leather Cuffs to keep submissives’ legs splayed and their needy holes easily accessible. Spreader bars are a fabulous kinky sex room tool regardless of room size or discretionary requirements, as their thin, long forms won’t take up much real estate when propped against the wall inside a closet or stashed under the bed.

Toys of the Trade

What is a kinky sex room without copious kinky items in it to get down and dirty with? Not a very good one, that’s what. Sex rooms and sex toys go together like peanut butter and chocolate, so don’t forget to account for your toy box in the planning stages.

Impact play instruments like floggers, paddles, whips, and riding crops should be aplenty so you can engage in frequent and varied funishment or punishment. In fact, we recommend you have at least one of each! If you’re going the full-on dungeon route, we advise you to proudly display your impact play tools on the wall, where you’ll be able to admire their menacing beauty and quickly access their biting power. On the other hand, those who require sneakier S&M may want to invest in a hidden-storage bench to keep at the bottom of the bed; that way, you’ll have your tools nearby at all times without anyone but you and your boo ever realizing it! If a storage bench is a no-go, then you can always go the simple route of making the most of your closet space; simply hide your tools behind umbrellas or boxes, and nobody will be the wiser.

But there are far more kinktastic toys out there than only ones meant for impact play. Whether you want to employ pain, pleasure, or play around with power dynamics, the world of bondage accouterments is vast and varied. The below quick list of BDSM treats is a good place to start for discussing which items you’d like to revel in with your partner:

• Ball gags (and other type of gags)

• Nipple and genital clamps

• Blindfolds

• Collars and leashes

• Feather ticklers

• Chastity devices

If you’re on a budget or simply eager to indulge your dark desires ASAP, a curated bondage bundle (we recommend the Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit or the Bondage Boutique Submissive Special Bondage Kit) will help you build your kink collection quickly and tend to cost less than buying each item individually. And if you’re short on storage space, a locking sex toy case will keep your bondage toys safe from prying eyes and bacteria, no matter where you choose to place it.